"You may think it's crazy that people can believe kids from the suburbs can live harder lives than kids from the inner-city, but I don't think you really understand how much more important family and support systems are than money and socio-economic status."
I never dismissed the importance of family and support systems. I mentioned that as being important, and agree its even more importance than socio economic status. However, and I say this with respect, because some kids from the suburbs have been exposed to some harsh things that somehow makes them believe they know what the "hard" life is like? Come on man. You had a support system. You had help, from whatever direction it came, you knew your Dad, you knew your grand parents and what is was like being a grandchild, you knew and had relationships with your family, you knew what it was like to have that love, that bond, it creates a sense of importance. You had a home, you had a community that helped you focus on school.....you had options. Are there bad role models, yeah they are everywhere. You have had some unfortunate experience and so has many people, that is not uncommon. What I am speaking of is a life style.
Think about this....You never knew your dad, or anyone in your family outside of your mom. You may have other siblings but they are not with you. You don't have a stable place to stay, you bounce around from place to place, you have one pair of jeans and a couple of shirts. If you have a stable place its a rat hole, heater is always broken and no AC. The mice play around in the middle of the f'n living room like your their guest. You hear gun fire everyday, everyday. Someone gets shot or dies what seems like every week, every week. You go outside and our drug dealers didn't push a BMW. They pushed a Acura and busy cracking open a crack heads head, often there would be shoot outs from rival gangs trying to take over the spot or retaliate. Your mom is a crack head and doesn't give a shit about if you eat, when you go to sleep, where you are, or your schoolwork. (How do you think that impacts the development of a 5 year old) If you have a sister your mom starts pimping her out as soon as she develops so she can get some more dope. You see different dudes coming out of the room from bagging your sister while you stay in the living room with the mice. Often times you figure your better off not being there and that is often the case at around 14-15. You go into survival mode and do what you can, often end up a ward of the court, but often times it goes undetected until your an adult and you get caught and go to jail.
I was lucky, I had a stable upbringing, had both my parents, a home to call our own, but it didn't change what was in front of my face on a daily basis and who my associates where as a youth and what they had to go through. Not everyone was influenced negatively, many didn't choose a life of crime but they also didn't learn good study habits or the importance of an education. My parents weren't educated and didn't understand the impact the environment outside had on us. I was smoking weed when I was 12. There didn't seem anything wrong with that at the time, I felt like I was mature enough. I was a baby, learning how to cut up and package crack. That was the only industry I knew about. The negative influence is too great, my brother got sucked in and got murdered for it. I changed as I matured. I'm the first in my family to get a college degree let alone a graduate degree. But I'm not narcissistic to believe that since I was able to do it others should as well, of course everyone has the ability to, but statistics doesn't work like that.
Yes Jordan may have been a ass, or just another kid who got caught in the mix. It wasn't until I was in my early twenties for the light to come on, but I always went to school, its what my parents asked of me and supported me.
Here's to those who persevered.