If a player puts himself ahead of the team, I'd rather he be gone. That said, I don't know what went on with Obekpa in the PC game. If he did refuse to go back into the game, I can see how the team would be down for the Robert Morris game. This is ridiculous. Kids have to have some respect for authority if they want to play a team game.
The occurrence was not the problem, the player's response to the incident is key.
DLo had an incident. He owned up, moved on, grew from it.
Maryland had a similar incident to Obekpa's. Charles Mitchell got into it with AC Spinelli, sent to locker room, spent 2nd half in warmups. Worked it out, manned up, and no problems rest of year.
It's all what a player makes of it. CO might be more emotionally immature than we realize. those close to the program might leak out some of that eventually. Time for him to grow up.